WHERE DO MOMS GET ENERGY TO SUCCEED THROUGHOUT THE DAY?

“Mom energy – comes from caffeine mixed with sticky kisses.”

MOMMYS ARE ENERGY MONSTERS

I remember going to the Nursery with a pram, little Dora in it, and Patrick on the stroller stand. There was also a scooter or a balance bike hanging on the buggy. I pushed that weight uphill – unfortunately – because that’s where the Nursery was. Without any effort, without a drop of sweat, or out of breath. When I think about it, I tell myself that I was strong, I had so much energy, I wouldn’t do it now. And you know what I think? I’m lying to myself, of course I would; all mothers would do it.

Every day, when I take my children to school, I see mothers with a child in a stroller, another child in a carrier, a child walking hand in hand, and another child in their arms. Or I see my old image of myself: a mother running after a child on a scooter, a balance bike, or with a child in a carrier. We all cope. All mothers are energy monsters, and there is no cure for them.

OTHER PEOPLE THAN MOMMY

A few times, when my son was little, my brother and I went into town without the stroller. Patrick’s (2-year-old) legs would get tired very quickly. What did my little one do then? He reached out to his uncle and—boom—jumped into his arms, all happy because he was already being carried. But after 20 minutes, my brother said he couldn’t do it anymore, and the next day his muscles ached. He was amazed at how I managed to do it, not going to the gym, not exercising, and carrying a little one in my arms for half the day.

This is a rhetorical question, to all mothers on earth. We don’t have an answer to this. Sometimes one of my hands goes numb, so I carry my babies on the other hand. Later, when both my hands are numb, his legs are still sore, so I take him on my shoulders. The next day, I don’t feel sore muscles, because from morning to evening, I have the same kind of exercises with my children.

MOM’S ENERGY VERSUS CHILDREN’S ENERGY

Moms are energy monsters, monsters of blaming themselves for everything, and monsters with a dose of love for children that exceeds all the feelings around them.

In May, for that long weekend off from school, memes appeared on the internet. Showing how a mother is destroyed and exhausted after so many days with children. And to that, there were great comments. There was a statement under the photo of the zombie:

“I look like this after 2 hours with children.”

“Or my child got up at 5 and fell asleep at 5 p.m., we have a sleepless night ahead.”

I will also share my experiences from that weekend. We walked a considerable distance through the forest and had a picnic by the river. We visited several playgrounds, and after 7 p.m., already in front of the house, Patrick killed us with the sentences: We haven’t played football yet. Are we going to play football now, Mom?

ENERGY WITHOUT SLEEP

Additionally, given all this effort, let’s consider the quality and quantity of sleep mothers get. For me, Patrick woke up every two hours to suck, chew, and play with my breast, and by 5 a.m., he was rested and eager to play.

How can such a mother still have the strength to wash, cook, clean, and take care of a child?

I said we are energy monsters.

I read that if you don’t give your body 5-6 hours of sleep, you’re not a robot, and your body will rebel. My rebellion is slightly delayed by 8 years, because that’s how old my son is. And yet, when he falls asleep beautifully in his bed, after 2 hours, I feel in my dream that someone is watching me. I open my eyes, and here’s Patrick: Mom, I had nightmares. Can I sleep with you?
And then I’ll definitely get a kick in the stomach or a punch in the eye. In a few minutes, Dora will also come, who will push my husband to the edge of the bed.

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Today, for example, Patrick fell out of bed. I picked him up, and he fell back asleep. In the morning, I asked him, “Does anything hurt after you fell out of bed?” And he, almost in tears, asked, “I fell out of bed?” My straight-faced reply: “Oh no, I must have dreamed it.” But deep down, I wanted to laugh because he fell like a rock and even cried a little in his sleep. And like every mother, I couldn’t fall asleep afterward, blaming myself for the accident, because I could have rocked him or hugged him. Only he didn’t remember anything and slept all night peacefully, unlike me.

MY DAY AS A MOM OF TWO CHILDREN

It’s Saturday at my place; 8:00 a.m. The kids are eating breakfast, and laundry is already underway. I’m thinking about what to make for dinner and why my floors are so sticky again. While writing this post, I’m also getting my younger daughter’s clothes ready and making sure she’s eaten all her oatmeal. It’s cold outside, so there’s no point in cleaning up Patrick’s LEGO bricks and Dorothy’s drawings. I’ll have to avoid the living room while I clean, because LEGO bricks and vacuuming don’t mix. On the other hand, it’s best not to disturb my children, who can play together for a few minutes.

This is what my morning looks like, and I painfully confirm the text I heard recently:

When a man has a day off from work, he rests; when a woman has a day off from work, she catches up on household chores.

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My mom’s brain is constantly on fire; hundreds of thoughts about childcare race through my head. Mothers’ thoughts create images of plans for each day with their children. Lack of sleep, a mind overloaded with household chores, and thoughts of guilt don’t stop us from being the best versions of ourselves as mothers. We are energy monsters, and there’s no denying it.

MOTHER DAY

Finally, I’d like to extend my warmest wishes to all mothers. Since Mother’s Day falls on different dates in different countries, I generally wish them to survive the coming days with their little terrorists.

Shall we lie down with our feet up and sip prosecco?

I hope so. I’ll wait a few more years until my children are grown and bring me prosecco and a pillow. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/a-special-day-for-a-special-mother/

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