WHERE DO MOMS GET ENERGY TO SUCCEED THROUGHOUT THE DAY?

“Mom energy – comes from caffeine mixed with sticky kisses.”

MOMMYS ARE ENERGY MONSTERS

I remember going to the Nursery with a pram, little Dora in it, and Patrick on the stroller stand. There was also a scooter or a bike hanging on the buggy. I pushed that weight uphill – unfortunately – because that’s where the Nursery was. Without any effort, without a drop of sweat, or out of breath. When I think about it, I tell myself that I was strong, I had so much energy, I wouldn’t do it now. And you know what I think, I’m lying to myself, of course I would, all mothers would do it.

Every day when I go to school with my children, I see mothers with a child in a stroller and a child in a carrier, a child walking hand in hand, and another child in her arms. Or I see my old image of myself, a mother running after a child on a scooter, on a bike, and with a child born in a carrier. We all cope. All mothers are energy monsters, and there is no cure for them.

OTHER PEOPLE THAN MOMMY

A few times when my son was a baby, my brother and I went into town without the stroller. Patrick’s (2-year-old) legs started hurting. What did my uncle say then? He reached out to Patrick and the little one, – hop -and jumped into his arms and was being carried. But after 20 minutes, my brother said he couldn’t do it anymore, and the next day his muscles were sore. And he was confused as to how I was doing it, that I didn’t go to the gym, didn’t exercise, and carried a little one in my arms for half the day.

This is a rhetorical question, to all mothers on earth. We don’t have an answer to this. Sometimes one of my hands goes numb, so I carry my babies on the other hand. Later, when both my hands are numb, his legs are still sore, so I carry him on my shoulders. The next day, I don’t feel sore muscles, because from morning to evening, I have the same kind of exercises with my children.

MOM’S ENERGY VERSUS CHILDREN’S ENERGY

Moms are energy monsters, monsters of blaming themselves for everything, and monsters with a dose of love for children that exceeds all the feelings around them.

In May, for that long weekend off from school, memes appeared on the internet. Showing how a mother is destroyed and exhausted after so many days with children. And to that, there were great comments like:

I look like this after 2 hours with children.

Or my child got up at 5 and fell asleep at 17, we have a sleepless night ahead.

And I will add my experiences from that weekend. We walked a lot of kilometers, walked in the forest, and had a picnic by the river. We visited several playgrounds, and after 7 p.m., already in front of the house, Patrick killed us with the sentences: We haven’t played football yet. Are we going to play football now, Mom?

ENERGY WITHOUT SLEEP

And also, for all this effort, let’s count the quality and quantity of sleep of mothers. Because, as it was with me, Patrick woke up to breastfeed every 2 hours, and at 5 a.m., he was rested and eager to play.

How can such a mother still have the strength to wash, cook, clean, and take care of a child?

I said we are energy monsters.

I read that if you don’t give your body 5-6 hours of sleep, you’re not a robot, and your body will rebel. My rebellion is slightly delayed by 8 years, because that’s how old my son is. And yet, when he falls asleep beautifully in his bed, after 2 hours, I feel in my dream that someone is watching me. I open my eyes, and here’s Patrick: Mom, I had nightmares, can I sleep with you?
And then I’ll definitely get a kick in the stomach or a punch in the eye. In a few minutes, Dora will also come, who will push me or my husband to the edge of the bed.

https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/my-childrens-sleeping-routine-its-a-f-joke/

Today, for example, Patrick fell out of bed, I picked him up, and he fell asleep again. In the morning, I asked him: Does it hurt after you fell out of bed last night? And he, almost with tears in his eyes, asked: Did I fall out of bed? My answer with a straight face: Oh no, I must have dreamt it. But deep inside I wanted to laugh, because he fell like a stone and even cried a little in his sleep. And I, like every mom, couldn’t sleep later, blaming myself for the accident, that I could have carried him, or hugged him. Only he didn’t remember and slept peacefully the whole night, unlike me.

MY DAY AS A MOM OF TWO CHILDREN

It’s Saturday at my place, 8 a.m., the kids are eating breakfast, and the laundry is on. I’m thinking about what to make for lunch and why my floor is so sticky again. While I’m writing this post, I’m also getting my younger daughter’s clothes ready and making sure they’ve eaten all their oatmeal. It’s cold outside, so there’s no point in cleaning up Patrick’s LEGOs and Dorothy’s drawings. I’ll have to avoid the living room while I’m cleaning, because unfortunately, LEGOs and vacuuming don’t go together. On the other hand, it’s better not to disturb my kids, who can play together for a few minutes.

This is what my morning looks like, and I painfully confirm the text I heard recently:

When a man has a day off from work, he rests; when a woman has a day off from work, she catches up on household chores.

https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/mens-zone-and-their-life-stories/

Mom’s brain is constantly steaming, hundreds of thoughts about childcare are circulating in my head. Mothers’ thoughts create images with plans for every day with their children. Lack of sleep, a head overloaded with household chores, and thoughts of blame do not prevent us from being the best version of a mother. We are monsters of energy, and there is no way to hide it.

MOTHER DAY

Finally, best wishes to all moms, because in May, in different countries, moms celebrate their day.

Will we lie with our feet up and sip prosecco?

I wish for you that it will be so. I will wait a few more years, when my children grow up and bring me prosecco and a pillow under my feet. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/a-special-day-for-a-special-mother/