THE UGLY TRUTH ABOUT WORKING MOTHER’S SACRIFICE

“Be the kind of mom who makes other moms want to be on your team”

I thought that after maternity, the beginnings were only difficult and that the lack of sleep and fatigue would quickly disappear. Unfortunately, after 6 months in a new job, it is just as difficult. Only my distance from silly texts about mothers who can’t keep up at work is much better. I am mentally stronger than in the first few weeks and I am already well organized. Also I am forgetful and always on the run.
Below is my new job survival list:

FIRST

Prepare everyone at work for the fact that you have children, small children. Most women in the Czech Republic, 40 years old and over, already have teenagers at home, and not like me, 6-year-old and 3-year-old children. In England, there were no huge differences between the ages of children and mothers. My bosses and friends had children 1 or 2 years older and younger than mine. This had a great impact on the positive atmosphere at work because we shared the same experiences.

SECOND

Turn off your brain to comments: she’s off again, she’s gone for 3 days again, she’s finishing early again. You and only you know the fact that Mother has a day off only because the child is sick, she leaves early, because they called from school, etc.

THIRD

You can’t choose your boss, but if he has kids, he’s on your side. If the boss is a woman, it’s double happiness. This pattern worked for me in my first job. A completely different experience than now – in my second job. Moms work with moms, they are damn tired but happy with work, conversations, and drinking coffee together. When my children were sick, my boss replaced me, and when her children were sick, I came to work for her. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/my-new-look-on-mom-returning-to-work-after-maternity/

FOURTH

It is much easier and more pleasant when you find a good team, then even if we have different lifestyles because singles mixed with married or without children mixed with children, we can still reach an agreement.

FIFTH

What I hate most is making working mothers feel guilty. When I heard that I would know how to do it because yesterday there was training for this job and I wasn’t there. Instead of providing information and explaining, as I explain to those who were not there.

I hate this inconvenient separation of Working Mothers from the Childless Team. I actually catch up on everything and I don’t take time off to rest or neglect a project at work.

Summary of maternal difficulties

Overall, the decision for mothers to return to work is something I admire. We are at work for 8 hours, and then we have to work overtime with the children at home. We pick up the children from school, prepare food, put them to bed, and get up at night when they cry. I try my hardest to separate work from family. I fulfill my duties at work, but also my duties at home.

I’m just grateful to all the moms who are going back to work because I’m not alone. I feel more supported and protected by working mothers.