My zone
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WHAT IS THE TRUTH ABOUT IVF BABIES?
I almost forgot how some people reacted when I said “I have children from IVF”. There are different groups of people: CONFUSED From such people I get a very strong feeling that in vitro is a foreign word to them. Moreover, they do not associate the IVF process with doctors, the development of medicine and the huge success of infertility treatment. The confused group listened in disbelief to my stories about the creation of Embryo, as if it was associated with some deviation from humanity, black magic. Also continue to bombard me with questions about how it mixes and how it might develop there. They expect me to answer the…
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WILL BEING A MOTHER RUIN ALL WOMEN FUTURE PLANS?
“Women don’t play victims, don’t make themselves look pathetic. They stand and make life deals.” WOMEN’S CHOICES There are two important choices in our lives. We feel ready to be mothers, but as women, we also want to develop towards our own initiatives. At the same time, we want to be fulfilled at work, and as mothers, we cannot afford criticism. When our biological clock tells us that it’s time for motherhood, we already have a career path in place. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/do-you-have-the-right-to-have-some-good-for-yourself/ BACK TO WORK Even while on maternity leave, in my case I was waiting to return to work. I wanted to meet people with whom I could communicate normally,…
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IS FORTY BETTER THAN THIRTY?
I recently received a funny question: What has changed for me after turning 40? To be honest, it’s not that much. In my case, most changes occurred after the age of 30. My relationship, my children, finally moving to another country. But, in my opinion, we shouldn’t be forced to do something just because of our age. We should not take into account and change anything because of age limits. Why do some people believe there are certain age limits? You know the saying: “You are only as old as you feel.” Decide because you feel it, not because some imaginary limit is approaching and you no longer deserve to…
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MY NEW LIFE IS PIECE OF CAKE – PART 2
“I open my eyes to a new life, but my mind and heart are full of memories from my old life”. For me, acceptance in a new country seemed like a piece of cake, but reality quickly and painfully kicked me in the butt. As a reminder, I am Polish; I have a Czech husband and two children. I have been living with my family for two years in a new country – the Czech Republic. After two years, I’m still surprised that it’s not any easier for me than it was a year ago. Seen from my kid’s perspective Patrick and Dorothy were born in England – Brighton. Patrick…
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WHEN YOUR BODY, MIND AND NERVES HAVE ENOUGH!
“Taking care of myself doesn’t mean me first, it means me too.” L.R. KNOST NERVES Working in a corporation where every week there’s a new project to be done so fucking quickly and the deadline kicks your butt again. When you hear every week that this is the last time we’ll work overtime and you stop believing it because you know it’s bullshit. There is also work waiting for you at home. Your children are waiting to be picked up from school. Do homework with your children and feed your children. Then, in such a drastically magical way, you no longer have a minute for yourself. You don’t have time…
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DO YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE SOME GOOD FOR YOURSELF?
“We expect mothers to work like – they don’t have children and we expect mothers to raisechildren as if they don’t work.” I heard an interview with a working mother on the radio. The interviewers asked her about her career path and priorities and she answered: HER CAREER “A long time ago, I was preparing a list of priorities. As a young employee of the company, I put working for the company first on my list. Over the next years of working in this company, I gained experience and developed my career. I devoted a lot of time to this company and thanks to my perseverance, I was promoted to…
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THE UGLY TRUTH ABOUT WORKING MOTHER’S SACRIFICE
“Be the kind of mom who makes other moms want to be on your team” I thought that after maternity, the beginnings were only difficult and that the lack of sleep and fatigue would quickly disappear. Unfortunately, after 6 months in a new job, it is just as difficult. Only my distance from silly texts about mothers who can’t keep up at work is much better. I am mentally stronger than in the first few weeks and I am already well organized. Also I am forgetful and always on the run. Below is my new job survival list: FIRST Prepare everyone at work for the fact that you have children,…
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I WISH TO BE MY CHILDREN’S SHADOW
“Magnificent childhood is not childhood locked in a safe bubble.” Last time we did a little experiment with my kids. From time to time, we try to send our children outside alone and watch them from the balcony. They really like to be independent, especially my 6-year-old son and I’m just afraid to leave them alone. They push me, more and more often, to give them freedom outside. Then I have to prepare one and the same protective story for their safety: “Children, what will happen and what to do if a stranger comes and asks you to go with him to the car, bus, or restaurant?“ Children answer: “We…
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MY NEW LOOK ON MOM RETURNING TO WORK AFTER MATERNITY.
I love being on teams with working mothers. They are the highest functioning messes I know.”-MARICAR SANTOS- When you read this, some of you will be outraged by my comments and others will laugh. I know, because more than once in the group of mothers, I have already presented my opinions on returning to work, benefits, and disadvantages. And just as each of us has a different approach to raising children, each of us struggles with the decision to return to work. I did not wait long and after 10 months, when maternity was over, I went to work with my first child and the same with the second. There…
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FREE FEET CARRY ME TO HAPPINESS
A few questions appeared after the last post: “The charms of my childhood”. (https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/the-charms-of-my-childhood/) . And here we go, below I answer the most important ones: First question “Are you not afraid that a child running around without shoes may be at risk of being bitten by an insect?” “Yes and No”. I try to look back and remember my childhood, how many times I ran without shoes, and how many times I was bitten by ants, stung by nettles, and hurt by sharp stones, and I still feel the joy of running without shoes. My only fear is that my child will suffer because, like any mother, you would…
