My zone
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WILL BEING A MOTHER RUIN ALL WOMEN FUTURE PLANS?
“Women don’t play victims, don’t make themselves look pathetic. They stand and make life deals.” WOMEN’S CHOICES We face two important choices in life. We feel ready for motherhood, but as women, we also want to develop our own initiatives. At the same time, we want to be fulfilled at work, and as mothers, we can’t afford to be criticized. When our biological clock tells us it’s time for motherhood, we already have a career path prepared. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/do-you-have-the-right-to-have-some-good-for-yourself/ BACK TO WORK Even while on maternity leave, I was eager to get back to work. I wanted to meet people I could have a normal conversation with, without having to mention…
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IS FORTY BETTER THAN THIRTY?
I recently received a funny question: What has changed for me after turning 40? To be honest, it’s not that much. In my case, most changes occurred after the age of 30. My relationship, my children, finally moving to another country. But, in my opinion, we shouldn’t be forced to do something just because of our age. We should not take into account and change anything because of age limits. Why do some people believe there are certain age limits? You know the saying: “You are only as old as you feel.” Decide because you feel it, not because some imaginary limit is approaching and you no longer deserve to…
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MY NEW LIFE IS PIECE OF CAKE – PART 2
“I open my eyes to a new life, but my mind and heart are full of memories from my old life”. For me, acceptance in a new country seemed like a piece of cake, but reality quickly and painfully kicked me in the butt. As a reminder, I am Polish; I have a Czech husband and two children. I have been living with my family for two years in a new country – the Czech Republic. After two years, I’m still surprised that it’s not any easier for me than it was a year ago. Seen from my kid’s perspective Patrick and Dorothy were born in England – Brighton. Patrick…
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WHEN YOUR BODY, MIND AND NERVES HAVE ENOUGH!
“Taking care of myself doesn’t mean me first, it means me too.” L.R. KNOST NERVES Working in a corporation where every week there’s a new project to be done so fucking quickly and the deadline kicks your butt again. When you hear every week that this is the last time we’ll work overtime and you stop believing it because you know it’s bullshit. There is also work waiting for you at home. Your children are waiting to be picked up from school. Do homework with your children and feed your children. Then, in such a drastically magical way, you no longer have a minute for yourself. You don’t have time…
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DO YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE SOME GOOD FOR YOURSELF?
“We expect mothers to work like – they don’t have children and we expect mothers to raisechildren as if they don’t work.” I heard an interview with a working mother on the radio. The interviewers asked her about her career path and priorities, and she answered: HER CAREER “A long time ago, I was preparing a list of priorities. As a young employee of the company, I put working for the company first on my list. Over the next years of working in this company, I gained experience and developed my career. I devoted a lot of time to this company and thanks to my perseverance, I was promoted to…
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THE UGLY TRUTH ABOUT WORKING MOTHER’S SACRIFICE
“Be the kind of mom who makes other moms want to be on your team” I thought the start after maternity leave would be just rough, and that the lack of sleep and fatigue would quickly disappear. Unfortunately, after six months in a new job, it’s just as difficult. I’m mentally stronger than I was in the first few weeks, and I’m already well organized. But the forgetfulness that never existed before pregnancy has increased to a level I hate, and I still don’t have enough time for everything. Below is a survival list for working mothers, based on my experience. FIRST Prepare everyone at work for the fact that…
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I WISH TO BE MY CHILDREN’S SHADOW
“Magnificent childhood is not childhood locked in a safe bubble.” We recently conducted a little experiment with my children. We try to let them outside occasionally and watch from the balcony. They love being independent, especially my 6-year-old son, and I’m simply afraid to leave them alone. They increasingly pressure me to let them go outside alone. Then I have to create the same protective story for their safety: “Children, what will happen and what to do if a stranger comes and asks you to go with him to the car, bus, or restaurant?“ Children answer: “We won’t go and we will scream for help or call for Mom or…
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MY NEW LOOK ON MOM RETURNING TO WORK AFTER MATERNITY
I love being on teams with working mothers. They are the highest functioning messes I know.”-MARICAR SANTOS- When you read this, some of you will be outraged by my comments, and others will laugh. I know this because I’ve shared my opinions on returning to work, its pros and cons, more than once in a group of mothers. Just as each of us has a different approach to raising children, each of us grapples with the decision to return to work. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/the-ugly-truth-about-working-mothers-sacrifice/ I didn’t wait long with my first child, just like with my second, and after 10 months, when my maternity leave ended, I returned to work. There were…
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FREE FEET CARRY ME TO HAPPINESS
A few questions appeared after the last post: “The charms of my childhood”. (https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/the-charms-of-my-childhood/) . And here we go, below I answer the most important ones: First question “Are you not afraid that a child running around without shoes may be at risk of being bitten by an insect?” “Yes and No”. I try to look back and remember my childhood, how many times I ran without shoes, and how many times I was bitten by ants, stung by nettles, and hurt by sharp stones, and I still feel the joy of running without shoes. My only fear is that my child will suffer because, like any mother, you would…
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HOW TO UPSET YOUR OWN CHILD?
I live in fear of the day my child will ask, “Where are all my other drawings?” I am a Mom of two small children, Patrick 6 years old, and Dorothy 3 years old. I made a list that I want to show my kids when they grow up. The list shows them in the future how trivial situations annoyed them and what drama came out of ordinary, non-committal questions. I will give you this list to help you avoid the parenting mistakes I make so you know how quickly and irreparably you can piss off your kids. My created list of questions will alert you to a morning, evening,…
