MOTHERHOOD IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND HARDEST PART OF LIFE

 “Because of my children, I laugh like a crazy woman, cry like a wimp, and feel love more than ever before.”

The above funny quote that starts today’s post is 100% true and is an exact example of me as a mom.

Motherhood hasn’t changed me much, but it has shown me a new level of love.

Being a new mom with no experience and many questions every day about what to do with a little new creature in my arms was difficult. During my first months with newborn, I would describe myself as a mom crying like a wimp more, than a mom laughing like a crazy woman. 

But slowly, slowly, everything stabilized. Being a mom isn’t complicated anymore. What helped me the most was holding my baby in my arms, breastfeeding, and waking up to his little face every day. It’s hard to explain in a few words but a mother’s love for her child is on a completely different level than all the love that I experienced before and that still surrounds me.

Motherhood didn’t get me into “baby blues.“

I remember the midwife visiting me at home after giving birth and asking if I had “baby blues.” It happens when you are sad about your newbaby situation, you cannot find yourself in your new role as a mother or you have sudden mood swings because of it.  Eighty percent of new moms feel “baby blues” after giving birth. 

When I answered my midwife that I had no “baby blues” and what my long-term efforts to have a child looked like: the painful process of hormonal injections, lack of support, and less information. Everything that happened to me before pregnancy was worse than everything that happened to me after.

“Baby blues” during the in vitro process.

My “baby blues” started long before I had my baby and got pregnant. All the hormones that I had to take during the IVF process changed not only my body but above all my psyche. 

I’ve seen pregnant women and felt worse that I’m still not. I sleep badly. I have had hunger pangs or loss of appetite. Something like being already pregnant and having the same hormonal storm but there was no pregnancy.

My unstable mood haunted me daily. I couldn’t find my favorite coffee at Aldi and I cried. I drank chamomile tea to suppress my emotions. Difficult moments happened most often when I saw pregnant women, mothers with children, and families in a park, a cafe, or right next to me.

I don’t know how I didn’t go crazy then, because being a woman in the IVF process, I was alone with it. No one close to me was going through IVF. When I was already a mother, I was surrounded by all my relatives and other experienced mothers.

I remember telling myself that I would no longer undergo hormone therapy to increase egg production. I will never take so many hormone injections again. And I will never subject my psyche to hormonal destruction again. No more IVF. And what? After two years, I went for IVF again. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/dorothy-my-special-gift/

Motherhood hasn’t changed me much, but it has given me a new experience.

I guess it depends on the whole approach to being a mother. From what we’ve been through before and how much we’ve been through. Many people, especially new parents, told us that our lives would change. Every parent perceives change differently.

Some parents may feel fulfilled, others surprised. I think in the beginning we all felt tired, sleepy, confused and pissed off. but we’ve been through it all, we’re stronger, more energetic, better organized. We just needed time with our baby, understanding and support from loved ones. Newbaby learned to live with us every day, and we got to know his needs better and better every day.

Motherhood hasn’t changed me much but gave me a new life lesson. 

Living with a child, with children, and having a family, is a new stage of life. No one will prepare us for this, no one will do it for us. This is our life lesson. We create a new world, full of children, chores, toys, dried food on the floor, or jelly beans stuck to the hair.

For me, every day with children is a day full of surprises. There are not only wonderful, positive surprises, but terrorist ones also prevail. Such as uncontrollable explode of crying, vomit on the blouse, and flying oatmeal.
Many things surprised me as a mother and continue to surprise me. The beautiful thing is that the sun always comes out after the storm. My son no longer cries but laughs. My daughter no longer throws blocks but cuddles up to me. In one word, with one gesture, Patrick and Dorothy can make me laugh to tears. And these are the lessons in motherhood that I need.

The lessons of motherhood apply not only to me but to my entire family. Therefore, each crisis situation is worth discussing, thinking over, and drawing conclusions together. Just remember what is important for the family: the baby’s laugh, first words, sticky kisses, and cuddles. This should accompany a mother’s life every day. Positive emotions greatly facilitate the difficult time of motherhood.