MY RELEASED TITS MAKE A SILLY PROBLEM FOR OTHER PEOPLE

As I write in my posts from time to time, I have been with my family in the Czech Republic for a year. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/my-new-life-is-a-piece-of-cake/.
The reason is my husband, whom I met in England. He is Czech and from the beginning of our acquaintance, he emphasized that the Czech Republic is his country, family, and home. After the appearance of the first child in the world, we began to seriously think about returning. Our daughter, a second child, was born on the first day of Covid. Due to all the restrictions related to the pandemic, she did not see her grandparents for the first year of her life. This greatly accelerated our decision to leave England and settle in my husband’s hometown.

NEWS FROM OTHER COUNTRY

For me, the mere fact that someone writes interesting facts about life in another country is very significant. I like to read how people feel when living in emigration, and how they deal with a different language, culture, weather, or wild animals. Here I want to refer to Gosia’s entries. She describes everyday family life in Australia. https://www.instagram.com/rodzinawaustralii/

Gosia writes about the strong Australian sun, about kangaroos within reach, about Australian customs, but also about herself. She will soon obtain a doctorate in Psychology. And everything on her profile looks and sounds beautiful, but unfortunately, she experienced internet hate, which is probably all of us, bloggers and influencers familiar. 

BOOB PROBLEM

There were negative, idiotic comments that were about her appearance, not the values she writes about. The most absurd thing is that Gosia goes without a bra. And for me, a woman who lived in England for 10 years, this is completely beyond comprehension.

On hot days, I also walked without a bra on the beach in Brighton. It’s normal for Brighton women not to wear bras in the summer. No one commented on it, no one even looked at it, it was just as natural as for Gosia in Australia.

But I didn’t expect that in Poland or the Czech Republic, going out without a bra is something very scandalous, tasteless, not very cultured, and not at all appropriate for a mother of two children.

Welcome to my world Gosia. You’re lucky you only have online comments. I heard in the shop behind me a sentence like: “This woman has no shame and even in front of the kids, she shows her tits“.

I couldn’t speak Czech freely at that time, because I would have told these ladies the truth that my breasts hurt when I have my period and I would not put pressure on them with a bra.

Then I think:

“Why do people exaggerate something that isn’t even a problem?”

After all, we have a free choice and this is our body. We have permission to how we want to look and what to wear.

SUMMER DRES’S STORY

And sometimes I don’t know if I should start arguing with the mothers who recently criticized my short dress in the park at my son’s birthday party. I’m not a conflict person, especially with problems that I call “pulled out of the ass”.

I like dresses very much. I honestly admit that in England I did not use them too often, due to a few sunny days. However, when going on holiday to Poland or the Czech Republic in the summer at 32 degrees Celsius, I could wear a different dress every day. And during my first summer in the Czech Republic, the first question from a neighbor wasn’t where I bought the dress, but am I too cold in this short dress?

I started writing about these comments and chatting with friends in England. They asked:
What did you mean is too short did you show your panties?

I sent them a photo. They choked with laughter. It was a casual summer dress, not too short, not too long, just right. We laughed about it. They always make me feel better. Laughter makes such comments evaporate faster from my head.

COMMENT ON HIGH SHOES

Before Christmas, I had a strange situation in which two ladies talked about my winter clothes. They commented on my heels. These kinds of shoes are rarely worn in this mountainous country. I understand that with 30 cm of snow, it’s hard to move in high heels. But for fuck say, I didn’t go mountain climbing that day, I went to my husband’s Christmas concert.

It was difficult to answer something because I was with the children and there was a pre-Christmas atmosphere. People should show kindness and not start arguing. Deep down, I decided not to respond to stupid comments this time.

I don’t want to advise any of you on how to act in such situations. I don’t want to have such comments in my life, but I also don’t want to change my style and life for no reason. So for now, I’m following a beautiful quote that says:

“Ignore people who think they know more about you than you.”