MY NEW LOOK ON MOM RETURNING TO WORK AFTER MATERNITY.

I love being on teams with working mothers. They are the highest functioning messes I know.”
-MARICAR SANTOS-

When you read this, some of you will be outraged by my comments and others will laugh. I know, because more than once in the group of mothers, I have already presented my opinions on returning to work, benefits, and disadvantages. And just as each of us has a different approach to raising children, each of us struggles with the decision to return to work.

I did not wait long and after 10 months, when maternity was over, I went to work with my first child and the same with the second. There were hard days and easy days. A day of drama at home and a day of fun at work. I’m not talking about a really bad, depressed time during the first few days back at work. Now I will focus on explaining the pros and cons of working mothers, the coolest aspects of working mothers. My dear Moms, I hope you laugh when you read my experiences about maternal life.

My warm coffee is back?

When I started a new job after motherhood and my boss was a woman with two children, we would start the day with coffee. 7 a.m. and regardless of whether there were goods to be unloaded or there was a queue, I prepare strong organic coffee. The fragrance of my coffee delighted our customers and introduced me to the world of a long-forgotten, lost, coffee lover. With two kids, you are left with two coffee options: iced coffee or two-day coffee. Warm, fresh coffee, gone into oblivion. However, I was lucky because my boss at work was also a mother of two children and a coffee lover. I can’t say it aloud, but I had more freedom at work than at home.

My boss has the same story every day:

• cold coffee at home, warmth at work,
• nice atmosphere at work
• normal conversation at work,
• no talking at home,
• but lots of singing, rhymes, arguments over toys,
• and most annoying – for the thousandth time, using the word “mom” for no reason.

And what other freedom do I owe to going to work?

Can you talk without being interrupted?

Before I started the topic of conversation not about children, with my husband, my son wanted a different fairy tale, and my daughter wanted to pee. Even when we wanted to continue, after being so distracted, we were unable to remember what the conversation was about. Sometimes it took us three days to finish one topic. Or more often we forget what conversation we started.

At work. I have really interesting, intelligent conversations with the correct ending. With my boss, we talk about everything, but not about baby poop. No one disturbs us, no one argues in the other room for a toy, no one shouts.

Does loneliness in the toilet exist?

The privacy in my house is gone because whether mom says: “She’s going to pee or not”, the older son will want to pee at the same time and the little one will be hungry or thirsty. You spend as much time as you want in the staff restroom in absolute silence. I even have time to check text messages and Internet news. Just relax. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/mens-zone-and-their-life-stories/

There is lunchtime – are you sure?

The first time after maternity leave at a new job, when the boss gave me a discount card to the restaurant next door for lunch and even ordered me out there, I thought I would cry with happiness. I was sitting with warm, fragrant toast, tomato, and mozzarella and people around who just came to eat, not complain and shout. An oasis of calm with great food and great companions.

What does my lunch look like at home with two children?

Actually, it didn’t exist for me. For children, yes. They had a choice of food like from a restaurant menu. I have plenty of leftovers. And the worst was coming when I wrongly cut toast, sausage, or avocado, and the huge, non-control drama – began. I could forget about silence as well while complaining and screaming.

I could also forget about the usual sitting during dinner for a while, there was always something wrong, the water ran out, the ketchup ran out. During lunch, in a restaurant, they will bring you water, and coffee and you will not move for a minute.

This whole story is not about complaining about motherhood and my children. I was terribly afraid of going back to work, I won’t say it was easy, but now that I’m writing about it, it’s much easier and I’m happy with my decision. Maybe this post will help other moms decide to go back to work.

I love coming home and spending the afternoon with my children playing and cuddling with them. And I love to sing with them and watch cartoons with them but warm coffee and female conversations can only be experienced at work. This is a post about the ugly truth 🙂