GOOD PEOPLE GIVE VALUE TO YOUR LIFE

“Keep in your life only in good company because soon you will be one of them.”

Check if you have a place to sleep, if you have food in the fridge if you are healthy and if there are people you love around, and finally stop complaining about how poor you are and how bad you feel.

I once met a person who should set a record for complaining. What I remember from talking to her and what still makes me laugh is the story of her return from vacation.

“Hi, you’re back from Greece, how was it?“

“Well, nothing special. Far from the beach, hot, only Greek food, really bad.”

“And what alcohol is probably only ouzo?”

“Exactly.”

“And it wasn’t in the offer that it was far from the beach?”

“Well, it was, but you had to get there by bus, that’s an exaggeration.”

“What about this food?”

“You know, just salad, olives, some moussaka. No steak, ribs, only boring green stuff. And what a bad service! They made only small cocktails if you wanted others they weren’t for free anymore”.

“I’m sorry to hear that, maybe next time will be better.”

“Maybe, but we won’t choose Greece anymore.”

And every time she came back from vacation it was the same and every day was based on her complaining. Soon we stopped asking her about the report of the next vacation, but she herself began:

“I was in Poland and it was very cold. It was hard to get anywhere because it was snowing. We won’t go there again.”

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It’s funny how she blamed every country for her mistakes because she didn’t check the weather or the distance to the beach or the center. It’s the little details that make life so much easier. The rest in her case would be bad anyway.

And step by step I tried to evacuate from the complaining zone. But my pregnancy came along and my shift changed to lighter hours, not rush hours. That meant working shifts with her. 

And now I’m not kidding, but in my first pregnancy, I felt fine and didn’t feel any pain until I had to listen to Lucy’s pregnancy story.

“You don’t feel bad, do you?” 

“No, no yet, I guess it’s just 12 weeks.”

“Oh in 12 weeks I was so dizzy and couldn’t stand behind the till like you.” 

“Seriously?”

“Yes, I even fainted once or twice.”

“Jesus, Lucy don’t tell me more, please.”

“No wait, the best was when I often had to run to the toilet and vomit.  I only scanned some food I already got sick.”

And I swear to God when she was talking and talking, my head began to spin.

“Are you okay? You look pale.”

I only remember going from the till to the manager’s office during customer service. He immediately gave me water and helped me get back to normal. I sat there for an hour because they feared that I would feel bad again if I left.

“Your colors are back. Are you feeling better?”

“Yes, definitely.”

“You know it’s normal in pregnancy.”

“I know, I didn’t feel bad until I listened to Lucy and her pregnancy issues.”

“She exaggerating as always.”

“I guess so, but it affected me so much that I started to feel bad.”

Of course, I never felt so bad again, but that was also because I wasn’t getting close to Lucy.

I met her last time at my baby shower. I chose a great place, a Cafe with a place for a party. Renting didn’t cost me anything because the owners were my friends.

I knew there would be a lot of people, therefore this place suited me better than my apartment. My friends are a mix of people who already have families, but also singles. The bar had both alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. There was also good music and different types of pizza available.

When everyone gathered and the party started, the first complaint came from Lucy:

“Why are these lights so bright my baby can’t sleep?”

But the lights were fine as always, so I ignored her.

Later she went to the DJ that the music didn’t suit her and generally everyone was having a good time except her. 

And even after the party I heard from others thousands of nice words about food, music, and atmosphere. And from Lucy the same evening:

“I didn’t like the pizza.”

“Which pizza?”

“They were all grossly distasteful.”

And there are situations in life where I accept a bad opinion from other people, but I don’t have to spend time with these people. 

I liked what my friend said about the good relations zone:

“There are many zones in our lives, which can be: work zones, life zones, friend zones, school zones, shopping zones, and soon your zone – mom zone. And if you just don’t feel comfortable and safe in your zone, then it’s a bad zone. And you can’t build strong friendships with people in other zones. No matter how hard you try, you will feel bad and people will hurt you more.“

And I believe that’s true.

I’ve only met one person in my life who was dissatisfied with everything, always. Additionally, she drew everyone into her negative zone. This had a disastrous effect on my well-being during pregnancy. I don’t always try to wear a pinned smile on my face, but I don’t damage other people’s psyches by telling them how bad everything is. I hope you won’t meet anyone like that on your way, and if so, I advise you to run away!!!