WHAT ARE THE BEST MY CHILDREN INHERITED FROM THEIR PARENTS?

“MY KID IS TURNING TO BE EXACTLY LIKE ME

IT’S A PITY THAT EVEN IN THESE DARK BEHAVIORS”

Of course, like every parent, we would like our children to suck the best from their mother’s milk and hope that the worst will be lost somewhere during growing up.

What a terrible lie.

Then, parenting would be uncomplicated and untiring only with the wonderful character traits of our children. There would be no ups and downs, no dramas and joys. Nothing that would be remembered for years.

There must be a little bit of what is good and a little bit of what is not so good, taken from parents and that’s how it is with us.

Melted heart

One day, for example, I’m picking up Dora from Nursery and we are talking about her Daddy’s cold. I explained to her that he felt terrible at night, with fever, headaches, etc. And in the morning he went to the doctor. The doctor prescribed antibiotics and Daddy is resting at home.
After hearing this story, Dora ran to a nearby meadow and started nibbling yellow dandelions. Without any specific request, from herself, she filled her hand with a bunch of dandelions and she back to me:

”Mommy, I picked these flowers for Dad. I’ll give them to him at home and Daddy will feel better.”

And in this situation, my heart melted. In such a simple way my child wanted to make his Daddy happy and get rid of the viruses. I try to remember stories from my childhood, although as a four-year-old but don’t remember much.
When I was about 6-7 years old, I remember that for my mother’s birthday or Mother’s Day, I gave flowers, but it didn’t occur to me without an occasion. If it was about me bringing flowers to my father, it would be completely inappropriate.

Three sweet and one bitter

And in general, my children talk a lot about feelings; they show feelings a lot. It’s wonderful how uncomplicated it is for them.

They always wait for a kiss, and when I happen to forget, my indignant children shout:

“Mom, kiss me goodbye, kiss me good morning, kiss me goodnight, kiss me just because I’m happy or just because I see you.”
Oh, so many of these kisses fly around us every day.

I often laugh at my husband that it’s too much emotion for me, but it is.

For him, however, it’s normal, natural. It’s as if our family was divided into four apples. Three of them are delicious and sweet: Dora, Patrick, and Daddy, and one is sour and bitter; Mommy.

With this selfless display of emotions, the children definitely took over from Daddy’s zone. For which I am grateful.

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The attitude of a chatterbox

And when Dora is ready for anything when they go to school, she doesn’t ask questions about what they’re going to do, or why they’re going there. Patrick asks about everything:

What time is it? Are we already late? What time does he finish? Is he going to dance class today? What will he have for dinner?

One thousand questions for a 10-minute walk every day from Monday to Friday.

And here my dears it cannot be denied that this talkative and inquisitive personality is me. And somewhere I heard a statement that you don’t know how annoying you are until you have a child who is just like you.

The worst thing is that with age this talkativeness and inquisitiveness increase, so I wish myself good luck and patience in the coming years with my son.

Everything is mine and only mine.

The last thing – fighting for one’s place in the world. Surprising, as it can be seen even in small children. Patrick, as soon as Dora was born, gave her everything. Shared everything, food, drink, toys, love, kisses. Dora??? Forget it. Her cup from Paw Patrol is her cup and only hers. Teddy bears only hers, apples one bite, one crisp, NO! and NO! That’s it.

It is not an infinite “NO” because after explaining that sharing is good, then Dora will share an apple, and give a Teddy bear but never of his own free will, like Patrick simply has joy in sharing and is comfortable with it.

To maintain a healthy balance of parenting in my family, Patrick adopted the behavioural style of his Daddy, and Dory adopted the habit pattern from my childhood.

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