WILL BEING A MOTHER RUIN ALL WOMEN FUTURE PLANS?

“Women don’t play victims, don’t make themselves look pathetic. They stand and make life deals.”

WOMEN’S CHOICES

We face two important choices in life. We feel ready for motherhood, but as women, we also want to develop our own initiatives. At the same time, we want to be fulfilled at work, and as mothers, we can’t afford to be criticized. When our biological clock tells us it’s time for motherhood, we already have a career path prepared. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/do-you-have-the-right-to-have-some-good-for-yourself/

BACK TO WORK

Even while on maternity leave, I was eager to get back to work. I wanted to meet people I could have a normal conversation with, without having to mention the child’s colic or vomiting after meals. Furthermore, the stories and advice from the mothers around me were making me depressed. Besides, I’d always been used to working, and in the office, I have time for coffee and problem-solving, whereas at home, I only have time to solve problems. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/my-new-look-on-mom-returning-to-work-after-maternity/

MOTHER’S PRIORITIES

However, in motherhood, with my first and second child, the beginnings were very difficult. I spent entire days and nights with my first child. Patrick quickly refused to take naps and didn’t get a full night’s sleep either. So, as a mother, I also had interrupted sleep until Patrick was three. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/?s=patrick+sleep

And then my second child arrived, and all the fairy tales about it being easier with two vanished. I’m exhausted as a mother, but as a woman, I still think about my dreams and the skills I want to develop. I believe I can combine motherhood with work, and that this gives me greater strength and confidence. I’m not lagging behind other women because I’m constantly developing and thinking about my future, but obviously, my children’s future is my priority.

AN ORDINARY MOM’S DAY

I take my children to school in the morning, and I love it. I kiss them goodbye, and we high-five each other. And then I go to work with peace of mind. I love the feeling when I pick them up from school because they throw their arms around me and hug me. I love spending weekends together the most. All the new preschool stories Dora tells are full of emotion and fun. I also love Patrick’s involvement, as he begins to read more and more books and take flute lessons. He’s getting better at handling new tasks, becoming a responsible boy. I feel so proud and fulfilled as a mother.

PAINFUL COMMENTS

I don’t think that by choosing to be a working mother, we lose touch with our children. Time with my child and my family will always be a priority anyway. I’m often hurt by comments from other mothers, such as:
“I can’t imagine being tired after work and still taking care of my children. You have to be rested for them, because being tired makes you more nervous.”

And let me tell you, sometimes I feel nervous and exhausted, but at work, never at home. At home, my energy somehow returns; my children support me and give me a positive outlook. At work, yes, I won’t deny it, I get nervous and tired, but it quickly passes when I’m with my family.
I wish all working mothers the best of luck and that they don’t give up.
I wish the same to mothers on maternity leave.

CHOOSE YOUR DREAM

We, women, know what we feel best in and what goals we want to achieve in life.

Let’s all stand behind our needs, support each other, and not criticize.

Let’s throw away the curse of unfulfilled mothers and unfulfilled women.


Let’s follow our dreams.