WILL BEING A MOTHER RUIN ALL WOMEN FUTURE PLANS?

“Women don’t play victims, don’t make themselves look pathetic. They stand and make life deals.”

WOMEN’S CHOICES

There are two important choices in our lives. We feel ready to be mothers, but as women, we also want to develop towards our own initiatives. At the same time, we want to be fulfilled at work, and as mothers, we cannot afford criticism. When our biological clock tells us that it’s time for motherhood, we already have a career path in place. https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/do-you-have-the-right-to-have-some-good-for-yourself/

BACK TO WORK

Even while on maternity leave, in my case I was waiting to return to work. I wanted to meet people with whom I could communicate normally, not to mention problems with colic in children or vomiting after eating. It’s all the stories and advice from the mothers around me that always got me down. Besides, I have always been used to working, and in the office, I have time for coffee and solving problems, and at home, I only have time to solve problems.

Only at work where you can combine motherhood with following the orders of your superiors can you reconcile both choices.

And this is not the first time I’ve written about it, but I’ve had bad experiences with employers, and I’ve also had wonderful ones.

https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/my-new-look-on-mom-returning-to-work-after-maternity/

MOTHER’S PRIORITIES

However, in motherhood, with the first or second child, the beginnings were very difficult. I spend all day and night with one child because Patrick doesn’t sleep, so I don’t sleep too. The second child appears, and all the fairy tales that it will be easier with two children come to an end. I am exhausted as a mother, but as a woman, I still think about my dreams and the skills I want to develop. I believe that I can combine motherhood with work and that it gives me greater strength and self-confidence.

AN ORDINARY MOM’S DAY

I take my children to school in the morning and I love doing it. I love it when we give each other kisses and high-fives goodbye. And then I go to work with a calm heart and soul. I love this feeling when I pick them up from school because then they throw themselves around my neck and hug me. What I love most is spending weekends together. All these stories by Dorothy, who is only 4 years old, tell it as if she were 14, and I love Patrick’s involvement when he starts reading and playing the flute, he is getting better and better, and he feels better in these new tasks. I feel so proud and fulfilled as a mother.

PAINFUL COMMENTS

I don’t think that by choosing to be a working mother, we lose contact with our child. Time for my child and my family will always be a priority anyway. I am often hurt by other mothers’ comments, such as:
“I can’t imagine being tired after work and still taking care of children. You have to be rested for them because when you are tired you are more nervous.”

And I will tell you that sometimes I feel nervous and tired, but at work, never at home. At home, my energy somehow returns, my children encourage me, and they give me a positive approach to everything. At work, yes, I won’t deny it, I’m nervous and tired, but it spreads quickly through my bones.

I wish all working mothers good luck and not to give up.
I wish the same to mothers who are on maternity leave.

CHOOSE YOUR DREAM

We, women, know what we feel best in and what goals we want to achieve in life.

Let’s all stand behind our needs, support each other, and not criticize.

Let’s throw away the curse of unfulfilled mothers and unfulfilled women.


Let’s follow our dreams.