HOW TO SURVIVE THE DAY WITH TWO SMALL CHILDREN?

When someone told you: “Don’t worry when you have another baby, they will look after each other, play with each other and it will make your day easier.” Remember these people well because they will burn in hell for spreading this lie.

TWO CHIPMUNKS

As a mother of two children, Patrick – a five-year-old boy, and Dora – a two-year-old girl, not one word in the above sentence is true. My children argue every day instead of having fun, they fight instead of taking care of each other and my everyday life is definitely not any easier with two kids. I hear stories from other parents that it takes time, that they will eventually discover that you can have a great time together, but based on the characters of my children, I dare say it will never work out.

THE CHARACTER OF THE FIRST CHILD

Patrick is a boy full of feelings, giving around kisses and kind words. Sometimes the bad ones too, but very rarely. Already in the nursery, Patrick’s teachers confirmed how cute my son is, but unfortunately, he is often drawn into bad games with friends to whom he cannot say “no”. That’s true. Patrick imitates everything and tries to fit even into a group of naughty children. Kids are not only an oasis of peace and sweetness, but they are also small demons. And if we start with the demons, we go to Dorothy’s description.

THE CHARACTER OF THE SECOND CHILD

When Dora was born, we were afraid of how Patrick would accept it. And he welcomed his sister wonderfully. He cuddled, carried, fed, and entertained her for the first half of the year. Of course, I was terribly grateful for these two adorable chipmunks, until Dorothy turns one.

To this day, I remember the comparisons I heard from my parents and friends:

“Look at this, with Patrick, you couldn’t drink coffee, even seat calm for a few seconds, and with Dora, you drank hot coffee and even ate a cake.”

Yes, it’s true. My day with Dorothy looked like a day without a child. It’s a pity that Dorota turned a year old and showed her true face – a little demon face.
Not a day went by that she didn’t tire Patrick or ruin his Lego construction. Patrick went through Dorothy’s transformation better than I did. I couldn’t stand to watch Dora trying to pinch her brother by pulling his hair for no reason. And he calmly walked away and didn’t hurt her.

How many times have I explained to Dorota that you can’t beat your brother and other children? How many times did Patrick give the toy away so that Dorothy would stop being hysterical?

SIBLING TROUBLE

My little demon even had a problem when Patrick was sitting on my lap. Also, she wasn’t interested in kissing and cuddling, she ran away or screamed “no.”Patrick never refuses cuddles and kisses. These stories about how children can be completely different are real examples of my kids.

When family or friends visit us, my husband and I have a made-up phrase that goes like this: “We have two minutes to sit with you and have a coffee because that’s how long our children will play together, and then the fight will begin.”
And no one is surprised anymore. I guess they secretly feel sorry for us because they certainly don’t envy us.

Dora will soon be 3 years old and Patrick 6, everyday stories with two children look a little better now.
Dorothy is no longer interested in Lego constructions. She takes care of her puzzles and dolls. From time to time there is an argument about a crayon, a glass, or a place on the couch. Such minor problems and minor quarrels, but they still shock me.

How can you make a drama about a bowl in which I served breakfast cereal?

There wasn’t a picture of her favorite Paw Patrol on the bowl, and there is such breakfast’s drama when even Patrick says to Dorothy:
“Why are you crying and screaming?” https://littlepuzzlesandme.com/new-moms-theory-versus-practice-9/

Many times Patrick’s strength leaves him to calm her down and he goes to his room. Same with me. To keep myself from exploding, I replaced her bowl and hide in the bathroom to calm down.

It amazes me how different children’s personalities can be. I’m still waiting for that time from the quote that started today’s post. A day when my kids play together, take care of each other or just laugh. And I will sit and watch in blissful peace.